comparison of self-differentiation and interpersonal forgiveness between veterans - and non-veterans spouses

aims this study aimed to identify the differences between interpersonal forgiveness and self-differentiation in veterans’- and non-veterans’ spouses. instrument methods the present study is non-experimental and conducted by the causal-comparative method in all the spouses of 25% of the veterans referred to the damavand martyrs and veterans affairs foundation, the spouses of non-veterans living in damavand in 2020. a total of 80 people (40 veterans’ spouses and 40 non-veterans’ spouses) were randomly selected. the research instruments included the self-differentiation scale and interpersonal forgiveness scale. multivariate analysis of variance in spss 20 software was used to analyze the data. findings there was a significant difference between the two groups of veterans ‘and non-veterans’ spouses in the component of my status from their differentiation variable (p 0.05), but no significant difference was observed for the components of emotional responsiveness, emotional fault, and integration with others (p 0.05). also, there was no significant difference in reconnection and revenge control components, control of suffering, and realistic understanding of the interpersonal forgiveness variable (p 0.05). conclusion veterans’ spouses are more capable than non-veterans spouses of maintaining their individuality and independence in intimate relationships with others, as well as the balance between reason and emotion.