Pathology of the interaction of legal, social and youth

ABSTRACT:Love is a bilateral issue, and it requires both enthusiasm and effort by lover, and desire and stretch of the beloved. This is an important principle that is emphasized by all the mystics and seekers of God. Firstly, because love is an attribute of God and it is HIS favor that causes someone to be subject to this blessing. Secondly, to reach the doorstep of the friend and going through the steps and phases of difficulties that the lover is confronted with them, will not be possible without the divine success and attraction. How is it possible for a weak and powerless entity to go on a journey towards the infinite? Furthermore, according to God’s saying through prophet Muhammad (PBUH): “I was a potential treasure that I like to be recognized. Then, I created the creatures for the purpose of being recognized by them.” Motivation of creation is also the love. Then seeking for being union with the lover is due to seeking for the lover from the side of the beloved. True love renews the lover’s entity and gives him a new life every moment. It gives him thousands of wings to fly with, wings that extend from the heaven to the earth. While, virtual lovers are in fact lovers of their own pictures and imaginations and they see a mirage from the distant and then run towards it, but don’t see anything unless their own eyes’ errors, errors that are the result of their illusion. Accordingly, the relationship between boys and girls before the nomination period causes the worst and most severe damage to community, families, life and the future of girls, though boys also experience such a worst and severe damage. Therefore, the best and most useful relationship between boys and girls is certainly passing their candidacy period together with consent and knowledge of the two party’s families. Therefore, in this regard a major and important proposal may be offered firstly, to the girls and then to the boys. Our daughters should follow religious orders and injunctions, and respect precious values and norms of the community. They should also follow the guidance of their parents and professors who are their best friends, helpers and compassionates. The girls should prevent improper and illegal relations with the boys most of whom intend to deceive them because, as it was indicated in the present research they should be sure that these boys are never willing to marry such girls, rather their purpose is only sexual abuse and to deceive them. Based on the survey, about 95% of them stated with confidence that if they want to marry, they will never marry their “girl friends”, because in regard to their decency, chastity, don’t trust them at all. Boys should also know that in addition to irreparable mental and psychological damages that they cause to innocent and childlike girls and hurt them and make them be pessimist, they themselves also will never be successful and happy in their lives and marriage with any girl due to suspicion and pessimism that have experienced about the girls. Therefore, the best proposal for marriage in addition to parental involvement that are their best helpers and friends is spending their official nomination period, being acquainted with each other’s characteristics and mutual understanding about themselves.