Food choices among newly married couples: convergence, conflict, individualism, and projects

Individuals entering marriage merge their personal food systems to create a joint spousal food system. This investigation examined newly married couplesʹ food choices. Qualitative interviews conducted with 20 couples as they entered marriage and again 1 year later revealed that some reported initial food homogamy, while others had varying degrees of compatibility in food preferences and tolerances. All couples reported some dietary convergence. Convergence was initially symmetrical (similar merging for both partners) or asymmetrical (one partner changed more), and sometimes convergence patterns evolved further. Unresolved food choice negotiations led to food conflicts. Prior food broadening experiences, initial dietary congruity, health/weight philosophies, foodwork, and commensal patterns were conditions shaping couplesʹ food choice negotiations and dietary convergence patterns. Some food individualism persisted for most partners, helping to alleviate food choice conflicts. Food projects occurred when one partner was committed to molding the otherʹs food choices. Overall, food choice negotiations involving both convergence and conflict were important components of marital adjustments that may have later health consequences.