تحليل روان‌شناختي آرامش ناشي از ازدواج در قرآن

Psychological Analysis of calmness brought about by Marriage in the Quran

چكيده آرامش ناشي از ازدواج چگونه آرامشي است؟ چگونه حاصل مي‌شود؟ آيا با آرامشي كه از نماز و ذكر و دعا حاصل مي‌شود تفاوت دارد؟ هدف پژوهش حاضر تبيين روان‌شناختي آرامش ناشي از ازدواج است. روش تحقيق در اين پژوهش توصيفي-تحليلي مي‌باشد. نتايج پژوهش نشان مي‌دهد كه خداوند براي جبران خستگي¬ها و برطرف شدن اضطراب¬ها، منابعي براي كسب آرامش قرار داده است. بعضي از اين منابع، براي تعادل حياتي و زندگي اجتماعي انسان ضروري هستند و بعضي ديگر، تعالي و تكامل روحي فرد را موجب مي¬شوند. يكي از اين منابع، كه براي تعادل حياتي، ارضاي نياز به پيوند جويي و انس و صميميت، انسان به آن نياز دارد ازدواج است. بر اساس آيات قرآن خداوند، انسان‌ها را بگونه¬اي از يك حقيقت و در دو جنس با خصوصيات جسمي و رواني متفاوت آفريده است كه نيازهاي جسمي و عاطفي‌شان با تعامل با يكديگر تأمين ‌شود. به همين دليل به هم گرايش و تمايل دارند و وقتي به هم مي‌رسند و نيازشان رفع مي¬شود آرام مي¬گيرند. با توجه به واقعيات زندگي خانوادگي منابع اسلامي، دلالت بر اين معنا ندارند كه صرف اينكه زن و مردي باهم ازدواج كنند، به آرامش مي‌رسند، بلكه در مقام بيان اين مطلب است كه خداوند متعال به‌صورت اقتضايي تمهيدات لازم را براي رسيدن همسران به خوشنودي عاطفي در خانواده فراهم كرده است و از اين‌رو تحقق عيني اين هدف در بودن شرايط و نبودن موانع است. كليدواژه‌ها: آرامش رواني، ازدواج، قرآن، آرامش در پرتو ازدواج.

Abstract What does marriage peace [calm] look like? How is it obtained? Is it different from the peace that comes from prayer and supplication? The purpose of this study is to explain the psychological aspects of marital peace. The research follows descriptive-analytic method with, however, a critical approach. The author has employed two different ‘descriptive’ and ‘rational-analytical’ methods for meeting two purposes: the first for highlighting the features of the scientific language and the different perspectives, the second for evaluation of the theories. The results of the research show that human beings, due to daily life and various events, will go through mental and physical weariness and anxiety. To compensate such exhaustions and to relieve these anxieties and tensions, God has provided resources for peace. Some of these resources are essential for the vital equilibrium and social life of mankind, whereas others are important for one’s spiritual development and perfection. One of these sources of tranquility, which man needs and is vital for life balance, satisfaction of the human need for intimacy and relationship, is marriage and the choice of the spouse. In this research, the focus is on the tranquility [calmness] that is attained through marital relationship. Based on the Quranic verses, Allah has created the human beings from one truth but in two sexes with different physical and psychological characteristics. These differences make them more attractive to each other. In fact, these two are created in need of each other, whose physical and emotional needs are interacting with each other. That is why they like each other and they calm down when they get together and their needs are eliminated. But the question is that if a man marries a woman, do they get peace of mind? Given the facts of family life, it is clear that Islamic teachings do not signify this meaning, but it is to say that God, the Almighty, has provided the necessary arrangements for spouses to enjoy their emotional pleasures in the family. The objective fulfilment of this end (mental peace of the spouses) depends on the existence of required conditions and the absence of obstacles. Keywords: Mental Tranquility, Peace of Mind, Marriage, the Quran, Calm in the Light of Marriage