كليدواژه :
ﭘـﺬﯾﺮش جايگاه , ﻧﻈﺮﯾﮥ زﻣﯿﻨﻪاي , رواﺑﻂ ﻣـﺎدر ﺷـﻮﻫﺮ وﻋـﺮوس , ﻣﺪرﻧﯿﺘـﻪ و ﮔـﺬر
چكيده فارسي :
در ﺟﺎﻣﻌﮥ اﯾﺮان ﻫﻤﺎﻧﻨﺪ ﺟﻮاﻣﻌﯽ، ﻣﺎﻧﻨﺪ ﻫﻨﺪ، ﭼﯿﻦ و وﯾﺘﻨﺎم،... رواﺑﻂ ﺑﯿﻦ ﻣـﺎدر ﺷـﻮﻫﺮ و ﻋﺮوس ﻫﻤﻮاره از ﺣﺴﺎسﺗﺮﯾﻦ و ﺷﮑﻨﻨﺪهﺗﺮﯾﻦ رواﺑﻂ ﻣﺤﺴﻮب ﺷﺪه و در ﻣﺤﯿﻂ ﺧﺎﻧﻮادهﻫـﺎ ﻣﺴﺌﻠﻪﺳﺎز ﺑﻮده اﺳﺖ. در اﯾﻦ راﺳﺘﺎ، اﯾﻦ ﭘﮋوﻫﺶ ﺑﺎ اﺗﺨﺎذ روﯾﮑﺮدي ﮐﯿﻔﯽ و ﺑﺎ ﻫﺪف درﮐـﯽ ﭘﺪﯾﺪارﺷﻨﺎﺳﺎﻧﻪ از رواﺑﻂ ﺑﯿﻦ ﻣﺎدر ﺷﻮﻫﺮ و ﻋﺮوس ﺻﻮرت ﭘﺬﯾﺮﻓﺘﻪ اﺳﺖ. ﺑﺮ اﯾﻦ اﺳـﺎس، ﺑـﺎ ﺑﻪﮐﺎرﮔﯿﺮي روش ﻧﻈﺮﯾﮥ زﻣﯿﻨﻪاي و ﺗﮑﻨﯿﮏ ﻣﺼﺎﺣﺒﮥ ﻋﻤﯿﻖ ﻧﯿﻤﻪ ﺳﺎﺧﺘﺎرﻣﻨﺪ ﺑﻪ ﻣﻄﺎﻟﻌﮥ ﺗﺠﺮﺑـﻪ ﻣﺴــﺘﻘﯿﻢ 29 زن )از ﺷــﻬﺮﻫﺎي ﻣﺨﺘﻠــﻒ( از راﺑﻄــﮥ ﻣــﺎدر ﺷــﻮﻫﺮ و ﻋــﺮوس ﭘﺮداﺧﺘــﻪ ﺷــﺪه اﺳﺖ.دادهﻫﺎي ﺣﺎﺻﻞ از ﻣﺼﺎﺣﺒﻪﻫﺎ ﺑﻪ ﻣﻘﻮﻟﮥ ﻣﺮﮐﺰي »ﭘﺬﯾﺮش ﺟﺎﯾﮕـﺎه ﻣـﻦ« در اﯾـﻦ راﺑﻄـﻪ اﺷﺎره داﺷﺖ، ﺑﻪ ﻣﻮﻗﻌﯿﺘﯽ در دل ﺟﺎﻣﻌﻪاي در ﺣﺎل ﮔﺬار ﮐﻪ ﺗﻌﺮﯾﻒ و ﺟﺎﯾﮕﺎه ﻫﺮدو ﻧﻘﺶ ﺑـﺎ ﻣﺴﺌﻠﮥ اﺑﻬﺎم ﻧﻘﺶ از ﺳﻮي ﻃﺮﻓﯿﻦ روﺑﻪرو اﺳﺖ. ﻣﺼﺎﺣﺒﻪﻫﺎ ﮔﻮﯾﺎي اﯾﻦ ﻣﺴﺌﻠﻪ ﺑﻮد ﮐﻪ ﻋﻮاﻣـﻞ ﻋﻠّﯽ )ﻣﻘﻮﻟﺎت ﺣﻤﺎﯾﺖﮔﺮي، دﺧﺎﻟﺖ، ﺳﻠﻄﻪ و ﺧﻮدﻣﺤﻮري، ﺗﺨﺮﯾـﺐ و ﺗﻮﻃﺌـﻪ، ﺣﺴـﺎدت و ﭘﺬﯾﺮش ﺑﻪﻋﻨﻮان ﻋﻀﻮ ﺧﺎﻧﻮاده( و ﻋﻮاﻣﻞ زﻣﯿﻨﻪاي )ﻣﻘﻮﻟﺎت ﻓﺮﻫﻨﮓ ﺳﻨﺘﯽ و ﻣﺮدﺳﺎﻟﺎري( ﺑـﺮ اﯾﻦ راﺑﻄـﻪ و درك از آن ﺗﺄﺛﯿﺮﮔـﺬار ﺑﻮدهاﻧـﺪ و راﻫﺒﺮدﻫـﺎ ﺗﺤـﺖ ﺗـﺄﺛﯿﺮ ﻋﻮاﻣـﻞ ﻣﺪاﺧﻠـﻪﮔﺮ، ﻣﻘﻮﻟﺎت اﺳﺘﻘﻠﺎل ﻣﺎﻟﯽ ﻃﺮﻓﯿﻦ، ﺳﻄﺢ ﺗﻮﻗﻌﺎت ﻃﺮﻓﯿﻦ، ﺳﻄﺢ ﺗﺤﺼﯿﻠﺎت، ﺳﻄﺢ ﺟﻬﯿﺰﯾﻪ، ﺳﻦ، ﺣﻤﺎﯾﺖ ﺧﺎﻧﻮاده، ﺗﻮاﻧﺎﯾﯽ ﻫﻤﺪﻟﯽ و ﻫﻤﺬات ﭘﻨﺪاري(، از راﻫﺒﺮدﻫﺎي ﻣﻨﻔﻌﻠﺎﻧﻪ ﺗﺎ ﻓﻌﺎل ﻣﺘﻔﺎوت ﺑﻮده اﺳﺖ و ﺑﺮ اﺳﺎس راﻫﺒﺮدﻫﺎي ﻃﺮﻓﯿﻦ ﭘﯿﺎﻣﺪﻫﺎي ﻣﺘﻨﻮﻋﯽ، ﻣﺎﻧﻨﺪ ﭘﯿﺎﻣﺪﻫﺎي ﻣﺜﺒﺘﯽ ﭼﻮن ﺑـﻪ وﺟﻮد آﻣﺪن راﺑﻄﮥ ﻣﺎدر -دﺧﺘﺮي و ﺣﺲ ﺣﻤﺎﯾﺘﮕﺮي، ﺣﺲ ﺻﻤﯿﻤﯿﺖ، دوﺳﺘﯽ و ﭘﯿﺎﻣـﺪﻫﺎي ﻣﻨﻔﯽ، ﻫﻤﺎﻧﻨﺪ آﺳﯿﺐﻫﺎي رواﻧﯽ، ﮐﯿﻨﻪﺗﻮزي و ﺣﺲ دﺷﻤﻨﯽ، ﻗﻄـﻊ راﺑﻄـﻪ و آرزوي ﻣـﺮگ و ﮐﯿﻔﺮ ﺑﺮاي ﻃﺮف ﻣﻘﺎﺑﻞ را ﻣﯽﺗﻮان ﻧﺎم ﺑﺮد.
چكيده لاتين :
In Iranian society, as in societies such as India, China and Vietnam, etc. the relationship between mother-in-law and the bride has always been considered the most sensitive and fragile relationship and has been problematic in the family environment. In this regard, this research has been done by adopting a qualitative approach and with the aim of a phenomenological understanding of the relationship between mother-in-law and bride. Accordingly, grounded theory and in-depth interview technique were used to study the direct experience of 29 women from different cities. After collecting data and analyzing them paradigmatic model of the relationship between mother-in-law and bride around the core category “accepting my position” was drawn. Interviews showed that causal factors (support, interference, domination, self-centeredness, destruction, conspiracy, jealousy, and acceptance as a family member) and contextual factors (traditional culture and patriarchy) have influenced this relationship and its understanding. The strategies adopted by these women under the influence of intervening conditions (financial independence of the parties, level of expectations of the parties, level of education, level of dowry, age, family support, ability to sympathize) include passive strategies such as silence, coercion without argument, apology and condescension, active strategies such as problem-solving dialogue, confrontation, and argument. The strategies have had various positive and negative consequences such as mother-daughter relationship and sense of support, sense of intimacy, friendship, as positive and psychological trauma, resentment, hostility, the severance of the relationship, the desire for death, and punishment for the other party as negative ones.
