سبك اسلامي ارتباط همسران: ارائه الگو بر اساس حديث نثرالدّرر

Islamic style of couples communication: Introducing a pattern based on the Nasr-al-dorar hadith

ﻫﺮ ﯾﮏ از ﻫﻤﺴﺮان در ﺧﺎﻧﻮاده و ﺑـﻪوﯾﮋه در رواﺑـﻂ زﻧﺎﺷـﻮﯾﯽ، ﻧﻘﺶﻫـﺎ و ﮐﺎرﮐﺮدﻫـﺎي ﺧﺎﺻـﯽ دارﻧـﺪ و ﺑـﺮاي اﻓﺰاﯾﺶ ﮐﺎراﯾﯽﺷﺎن ﻧﯿﺎزﻣﻨﺪ اﻟﮕﻮﻫﺎي ﺗﻌﺎﻣﻠﯽ ﻣﻨﺎﺳﺐاﻧﺪ. ﺑﺎ ﻫـﺪف ﺑﺮرﺳـﯽ ﺳـﺒﮏ رﻓﺘـﺎري و ارﺗﺒـﺎﻃﯽ زن و ﺷﻮﻫﺮ در آﻣﻮزهﻫﺎي اﺳﻼﻣﯽ، ﻣﺤﺘﻮاي ﻣﺘﻮن اﺳﻼﻣﯽ ﺑﺎ ﻣﺤﻮرﯾﺖ ﺣـﺪﯾﺚ ﻧﺜﺮاﻟـ ّﺪرر، ﺗﺤﻠﯿـﻞ ﮐﯿﻔـﯽ ﺷـﺪ. ﺑـﺎ ﺑﻪﮐﺎرﮔﯿﺮي روش ﻓﻬﻢ روانﺷﻨﺎﺧﺘﯽ ﻣﺘﻮن اﺳﻼﻣﯽ و ﺑﺎ اﺳﺘﻔﺎده از ﻓﻦ »ﮔﺴـﺘﺮش ﻣـﺘﻦ ﻫﺴـﺘﻪاي«، اﻟﮕـﻮي ارﺗﺒﺎﻃﯽ ﻣﺘﻨﺎﻇﺮِ ﺳﻪﮔﺎﻧﻪ ﺑﺮاي ﻫﺮ ﯾﮏ از زن و ﻣﺮد )ﻫﻤﺮاﻫﯽ در ﻣﺪﯾﺮﯾﺖ ﻣﻘﺘﺪراﻧﻪ، ﺧﻮشرﻓﺘـﺎري در ﺣﻤﺎﯾـﺖﮔﺮي، ﮔﺸﺎدهدﺳﺘﯽ در ﻣﻬﯿﺎﮐﻨﻨﺪﮔﯽ ﺑﺮاي ﻣﺮدان و ﺻﯿﺎﻧﺖ در ﻣﺮاﻗﺒﺖﮐﻨﻨﺪﮔﯽ، رﺳـﯿﺪﮔﯽ در ﭘﺮورشدﻫﻨـﺪﮔﯽ و دﻟﺮﺑـﺎﯾﯽ در ﻣﻬﺮورزي ﺑﺮاي زﻧﺎن( ﺑﻪ دﺳﺖ آﻣﺪ. ﻫﻤﺴﺮان ﻣﯽﺗﻮاﻧﻨﺪ ﺑﺎ ﺑﻪ ﮐﺎرﺑﺴﺘﻦ اﯾـﻦ اﻟﮕـﻮ، ﺗـﻮان ﮐﺎرﮐﺮدﻫـﺎي اﺧﺘﺼﺎﺻـﯽ ﺧﻮد و درﻧﺘﯿﺠﻪ ﺳﺎزﮔﺎري، رﺿﺎﯾﺖ و ﮐﯿﻔﯿﺖ زﻧﺪﮔﯽ ﻣﺸﺘﺮﮐﺸﺎن را اﻓﺰاﯾﺶ دﻫﻨﺪ.

Spouses have their own roles and functions in the family, and especially in their marital relationships; they need suitable interaction pattern to increase their efficiency. Aiming to investigate behavioral and communication style of spouses in Islamic teachings, the content of Islamic text, especially the Nasr-al-dorar hadith, were analyzed qualitatively. Using the method for understanding the psychology of Islamic teachings and the technique of “broaden core text”, the triple model of communication for spouses (working together in authoritative management, good manners in supporting, and generosity in providing for men and caring, nurturing, and charming in kindness for women) has been formed. Spouses can, by using this model, improve the ability of their own specific performance and thus adjustment, satisfaction, and quality of marital life.